Discipleship Handouts

The handouts below can be used to assist someone engaged in a discipleship relationship. Each handout can serve a different purpose in either starting discussion or guiding self-reflection around important aspects of spiritual growth. We have included a brief description of each handout as well as links to printable documents.

Mentoring Plan Worksheet

As mentors set up a mentor/mentee relationship, there are several key components to consider. First of all, time availability for both must be determined. The relationship may not be effective if either party feels rushed or overloaded. Additionally, some thought and effort needs to be put into what might be an expected outcome of the mentoring relationship. Objectives for specific meetings and overall goals for the relationship are necessary to help determine if the mentoring relationship is effective. Scripture reminds us in Proverbs 29:18 “Where there is no vision, the people perish…” We could say the same for a mentoring relationship and that without vision and goal setting, it will not last either. This worksheet helps a mentor and mentee organize meeting dates and times. It also is used to establish goals, objectives, and boundaries of the mentor/mentee relationship.
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Spiritual Growth Worksheet

“…giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; and to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness; and to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity. For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.” 2 Peter:5-8

This worksheet can be used in a mentoring relationship to help mentees focus on their spiritual growth and find areas which should require more concentration.
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Spiritual Health Assessment

Assessments are vital for things to function properly and achieve maximum benefits. While you may be quick to assess your physical health, you may be less likely to assess your spiritual health. Use these 30 questions to assess your spiritual health.

Trust God to guide you in your choices. The key to growth will be His work in you as you intentionally seek His kingdom first. Matthew 6:33 “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”

This assessment, created by LifeWay, helps the reader determine personal spiritual health.
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Spiritual Growth Assessment

This spiritual growth assessment is a valuable tool for mentors to help understand the spiritual growth levels of their mentees in various areas of the Christian walk.

The areas of focus are:

  • Abide in Christ
  • Live in the Word
  • Pray in Faith
  • Build Godly Relationships
  • Witness to the World
  • Minister to Others

LifeWay Christian Resources, Nashville, TN. Adapted from the content displayed on their website, www.lifeway.com.
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New Convert Worksheet

Mentors working with new converts or new members will find this tool useful in keeping the focus of their mentees in the right places and at an appropriate level. This worksheet is intended to help a new believer as they go through self-examination.
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Newly Married Worksheet

As marriage mentors work with newly married couples, they will ask some general questions about how things are going. However, in order to be more effective, they will eventually want to ask more specific questions in key areas. This tool is helpful in guiding a discussion in the following areas:

  • Establishing a Christian home
  • Communication
  • Outside relationships
  • Finances
  • Sexuality

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Further Information

Recommended Actions For Spiritual Growth
This article goes with the handouts above.  The article includes actions that can help you complete your intentional plan for your spiritual growth. See these as suggestions to get you started, rather than a list of the only possibilities. Trust God to guide you in your choices. [ACCFS]

Ten Laws of Boundaries
Healthy emotional and relational boundaries are key to having successful relationships and dealing with life well. The Ten Laws of Boundaries provide principles for learning and applying healthy boundaries. [ACCFS]

Marriage Mentoring
This mentoring guide is a series of twelve discussion aids through key topics of the marriage relationship.  It is an excellent resource to use for guiding conversations with individual couples or in a small group setting. Copies are available for purchase at the ACCFS office or through the author’s website here. [dredgray]

The Mentor Guide 
This website offers a wealth of information for addressing family-related issues in the lives of people you mentor. The guide is organized by topics and each topic includes key Scriptures, conversation starters, and helpful resources. [Family Life]


51 Creative Ideas for Marriage Mentors    amazon.com
Authors: Les Parrott, Leslie Parrott
Can be used in any of the three areas of the marriage mentoring triad:

  • Preparing – mentoring engaged and newlywed couples.
  • Maximizing – mentoring couples from good to great.
  • Restoring – mentoring couples in distress.

Creative ideas for marriage mentors are grouped into these three areas. There is also an entire section of ideas appropriate for mentoring any couple.

The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring  amazon.com
Authors: Les Parrott, Leslie Parrott
This is a comprehensive resource to help churches build a thriving marriage mentoring program. Les and Leslie Parrott are passionate about how marriage mentoring can transform couples, families, and entire congregations. It includes life-changing insights and essential skills for preparing engaged and newlywed couples and maximizing marriages from good to great. Practical guidelines help mentors and couples work together as a team, agree on outcomes, and develop skills for the marriage mentoring process.