Learning About Each Other

Possible questions you may ask your fiancé as you get to know them better.

Who Are You? 

• To which family member were you closest as a child? Why?
• What book or author has most influenced you? Why?
• Who is your favorite relative? Why?
• What career choice appealed to you as a child?
• What was the most dramatic event in your childhood or youth?
• What achievements have brought you the greatest satisfaction?
• What are your three favorite recreational activities?
• What has been the biggest disappointment in your life?
• Do you have any regrets at this point in your life? Share one or two.
• What were the major turning points in your life? 

Building Connection 

• Describe your relationship with the Lord currently. Where can I help you grow?
• What is your favorite quote from the last month?
• What caused you to laugh the hardest in the last month?
• What caused you private sorrow recently?
• If you could fix something by snapping your fingers, what would that be right now?
• What do you look forward to next week? Next year?
• Share some “mountain-top” experiences you’ve had with Christ.
• What is one of your favorite worship songs right now? Why?
• What has been a meaningful scripture to you lately? Why?
• What do you consider your most attractive and unattractive physical features?
• How has your view of God changed over time? What is the main lesson you have learned in God’s character since becoming a believer? 
• What is an important virtue or character trait you are known for? Is this something natural for you or something you have worked on over time and with God’s grace?  
• What are your views on family roles? Are your views more traditional or contemporary? 
• What does your prayer life look like? Is it more casual or structured? Why is prayer important to you? Have you had unanswered prayers in your life? What are they?  
• What are your beliefs about tithing and giving a portion of your income away? How does this look for each of you right now and what does it look like once you become a couple?  

What Do You Think?  

• Do you tend to be more cautious or adventurous? What is the scariest thing you have ever done?  
• What is one feel-good, human-interest story that you have heard or read lately? What about it touched you? 
• What languages have you learned or tried? If none, would you like to ever a learn a language and if so, which one and why?  
• What parts of the world do you know the most and least about? Why? 
• What are your thoughts on the possibility of moving to another country? Which one and for how long?  
• If you could choose one major world problem to go away, which one would you choose and why? 
• What does social media mean to you? What is a healthy use of social media and what is not a healthy use?  
• If there were one skill or talent you’d like to learn, what would that be and why?  
• What hobby or recreational activity do you most enjoy? Could some of these activities be blended going forward as a couple? How so?
• If you knew you could not fail, what is one thing you would like to try to do? 

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For Further Information:

Before We Marry: A Journal for Christian Couples: 250 Questions for Couples to Grow Together in Faith
This journal is designed for engaged and young couples to learn more about each other and develop emotional intimacy through a variety of questions. The book has five broad categories of questions: family and friends; faith and values; you and me; past, present and future; and the world around us.

101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged
Intentional questions to discuss as you head towards marriage.

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