Sexuality In Christian Marriage

Contemporary media and society portray sexuality as a mere means of recreation and physical gratification. The reality is what society claims as freeing is enslaving. Since the Fall this beautiful gift given to us has been distorted, misused, abused and has led to devastating consequences. We do well to consider the purpose and place sex should have in our lives based on our Creator and Designer. From the very beginning, God created sex and gender and stated, “it was very good” (Genesis 1:31).

The Bible consistently regards marriage and romance as mysteries that point beyond themselves to God’s everlasting love. Thus, when viewed properly and biblically, sex points us back to God and is a means of glorifying Him. In Mere Christianity, C.S. Lewis writes, “The Christian attitude does not mean that there is anything wrong about sexual pleasure, any more than about the pleasure of eating. It means that you must not isolate that pleasure and try to get it by itself, any more than you ought to try to get the pleasures of taste without swallowing and digesting, by chewing things and spitting them out again.” When we isolate sex as purely physical pleasure or recreation it becomes a god. When sex is viewed as dirty or bad, it disregards God’s purpose, design, and original intent. When sex is engaged and viewed rightly in a biblical perspective, it becomes a blessing that grows oneness in our marriage relationship and draws us closer to the heart of God.

For more information on healthy biblical sexuality in marriage, please review the following documents:

For Further Information:

Enhancing Emotional and Physical Intimacy in Marriage: Handout  Audio
God’s design for marital sexuality includes both emotional connection and physical responsiveness. However, busy lives, stress, and skewed messages from the world can get in the way of experiencing the full blessing He desires for us in this area. This counselor’s presentation focused on four practical ways couples can deepen their emotional intimacy while enhancing sexual fulfillment.

God’s Design for Sex
This series of articles provides a healthy and biblical view of sexuality for marriage and challenges many conflicting messages we hear from our culture today. [Focus on the Family]

Marriage: Reflecting God’s oneness Part 3  
The intimacy between a husband and a wife holds immense promise, for it springs from immense holiness – The Holy Trinity. Christian marriage is a living testimony of God’s Oneness. In this podcast episode, Kaleb Beyer helps us understand sex as God designed it.

Sexuality in Marriage:  Handout  Audio
This counselor’s presentation focuses on five practical steps couples can take to enhance their sexual relationship. Couples of all ages can benefit from intentionally focusing on ways to strengthen and protect their sexual relationship and experience God’s design for sexuality in their marriage.

Sexuality in Christian Marriage Video

Intended For Pleasure
Authors: Ed Wheat, MD, Gaye Wheat
This is an easy-to-read 281-page reference book that combines biblical teaching on love and marriage with the latest medical information on sex and sexuality. This popular resource gently encourages married couples to make their sexual relationship the fulfilling experience it was meant to be.


Sacred Sex: A Spiritual Celebration of Oneness in Marriage
Author: Tim Alan Gardner
This is an easy-to-read 240-page book that reviews biblical teaching on God’s design for oneness in marriage. This book is not a resource for medical information or techniques on sex, rather a review of Scripture for the higher purpose of marital sex in a way that brings the fulfillment of true oneness.