Self-Examination Questions
When Experiencing Relationship Conflict
“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” Romans 12:18
Trying to deal with problems without taking them to God.
“Have I taken my hurt, my concerns and my relationship with this person to God in prayer? Have I asked God for grace and wisdom for how to deal with this relationship? Have I prayed specifically for this person?”
Pride
“Do I see myself as ‘better’ than the other person?” “Do I over-focus on how I’ve been wronged and forget I have wronged others?”
Faultfinding
“Do I only see the negative things the other person does without seeing any of the positive things?”
Replaying the Hurt
“Do I review and replay the scene of the conflict or when I was hurt over and over again?”
Avoidance
“Do I avoid being around the people I had conflict with? Is this part of the problem?”
Silence
“Has my refusal to share information, my feelings or opinions with others led to or fueled this problem?”
Isolation
“Do I withdraw emotionally from others?”
Gossip
“Do I talk about the person behind his/her back or spread negativity about the person with my friends, family or coworkers?”
Resentment
“Have I let anger build up over time and turn to bitterness?”
Adapted from Restoring Broken Relationships: Hope for the Heart by June Hunt, The Soul Care Bible: Thomas Nelson Publishers.
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